Today’s post is on Chapter 5 from the book, A Woman After God’s Own Heart. If you haven’t read this book, I highly recommend it.
Much like this author, my marriage saw it’s share of rocky moments in the earlier days. Even though we were both Christians, we didn’t always make Christ the center of our marriage. After 16 years of marriage, here’s what I’ve learned:
- Love is more than a feeling – it is action! After the honeymoon phase, that’s where REAL love steps in. It is hard work. You have to give, not just take. I look back now and can see how very selfish I’ve been.
- God did not call me to change my husband! I spent too much energy complaining and nagging about what I saw or didn’t see in him. I’ve learned that I am responsible for my personal relationship with God, not his. So I’ve had to ask myself, “Am I obeying God’s word?”, “Am I living in a way that pleases God?”. I would encourage you to ask yourself these same questions. Are you reading your Bible daily? Are you praying for God to change you? Are you covering your husband in prayer? If you can answer yes to these questions, you will see God working around you. Be patient though, because God’s timing is not as fast as we’d like it to be. It is important to note that above anything we pray for and ask, our ultimate goal should be desiring God’s will to be done.
- I had a distorted view of what it means to submit to your husband. God’s word is clear that man was created first. Woman was created as a helper for him. Through reading the Bible daily and praying to be a woman after God’s own heart, I was able to see things through a different perspective. Everything hinges upon God’s word.
We are called to serve. My job assignment from God is to serve my husband; to help him. If you are reading this and your husband is not a Christian, you are still called to serve him. Many men are won to Christ because their wives lived out Christ’s love before them. Remember, it is our job to share the good news – the message of salvation. It is God’s job to call the person to himself; it is God’s job to change the heart and transform the life. We are called to obey God’s word and serve others with love.
Would you join me in this challenge?
- I will read (no matter how much or how little) my Bible every day.
- I will pray for my husband’s needs or concerns. Pray for him at work; that he be shielded and protected from evil; if he is unsaved, pray for his salvation.
- Ask my husband at least once each week, “What can I do for you today?”. Watch how his countenance changes or how encouraged he may be from this simple act of love.